I don’t make New Year’s resolutions for one very specific reason. A year is too long. I do really well for the first couple days, maybe even a few weeks, but then life pushes those ideas and thoughts to the back of my mind and I forget. I forget that I wanted to write so much or do these projects or lose this weight. Because life is full of other little things.
I moved on to monthly goals for awhile. Those kind of worked, except it usually went something like this:
- Write the monthly goals post at the beginning of the month.
- Immediately do the easy thing (I always included one easy thing).
- Forget about the list for 3 weeks.
- Go to write the monthly goals post for the next month and quickly try to do the rest of the things on it.
So that didn’t work too well either. I moved to weekly goals, and I think I’ve finally found my sweet spot. A week is short enough. I can remember things for that amount of time, or they can live in my new planner, or on my marker board, a reminder to get crossed off, but not there for so long that I don’t even see them anymore.
So you might wonder why someone who forgets things after a week would choose a word for the year. For the entire year. That’s like asking for failure, right? And perhaps it is, although I hope it isn’t. I tried this once before, and it kind of fizzled out.
The difference is that this time I actually took the time to break it down.
I chose the word Relationships this year. I feel like I’ve let a lot of my relationships take a back burner, and I’d like to fix that. I went with specific categories of people, and then wrote down some specific ways I could improve my relationship with each one.
- My kids, both generally as a parent, and each child specifically
- My extended family – parents, grandma, siblings and their families
- My friends
- My church family
- My kids’ relationships with important people in their lives
Once I separated those categories out, I thought of specific ways to work on building and improving each of those relationships. Things like writing to my grandma once a month, or having the kids send pictures and notes to their godparents. Things like actually calling people (I’m an introvert who hates phone calls, so I put them off, but I do actually love talking to family and friends).